Science of dating: why playing hard to get only works for men
Please refresh the page and retry. M en should play hard to get if they want to attract the opposite sex on a first date otherwise women will see them as unmanly or manipulative, new research has shown. The studies worked on the basis that people often say that they seek a partner that is "responsive to their needs" and that such a partner would arouse their sexual interest. However it seems that in the early stages of dating, women are more turned on by unresponsive men. Professor Gurit Birnbaum of the Interdisciplinary Centre, Israel, said: Women may perceive this person as inappropriately nice and manipulative, in that trying to obtain sexual favours, or eager please, perhaps even as dating playing hard to get, and therefore less sexually appealing.
Regardless of the reasons, perhaps men should slow down if their goal is to instil sexual desire. It found that women who were judged to be more friendly and responsive were seen daging be more sexually attractive. Men, on plauing other hand, were viewed as manipulative or looking for a quick fling if they were too eager to please.
A second test by the University of Rochester, US, involved men and women armed with a photo of their "date" interacting online discussing dating playing hard to get current problem in their life. Their virtual date was either sympathetic dating playing hard to get unsympathetic. Men who interacted with an agreeable and attentive female perceived her as more feminine and as more sexually attractive than did men who found women aloof.
However women are more cautious than men when interpreting a stranger's expressions of friendship. Other women may perceive a responsive stranger as warm and caring and therefore as a desirable long-term partner. A third test in which 80 men were asked to communicate with women over Instant Messenger also found that men were more dating playing hard to get to find women more sexually attractive if they were open, friendly and agreeable. We urge you to turn off your ad blocker playying The Telegraph website so that you can continue to access our quality content in the future.
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